Heart in my mouth!!

Hi, thank you for stopping by. How are you doing? How have you been? How is work? How is your business doing? It has been a while and all sorts have happened to me but here I am, live and direct!

Today, I am going to write about the event that occurred around this really cute picture that got my heart right in my mouth, yes in my mouth! It was in December, a few years ago when my son was about three years old. He had a playdate with a friend’s child and we had decided to go to a family restaurant called Papachinos because it had a play area and we thought the children could play there and have a nice time there. The particular restaurant actually had two play areas, one inside where one had to pay to get on some rides and another one outside with swings and slides and others they could access for free while we ate.

When we got there, my precious JBoy was really excited because I had taken him there a few times and he loved the place. He started jumping and was pointing to the indoor play area but I said to him, baby, we are playing in the outdoor area today. He was a little upset but got over it quickly. We were seated and placed our various orders, ate and the children kept playing in the outdoor area and were obviously enjoying themselves. Between my friend and I, we took turns looking after our children whilst they played and had a fun date. Then it happened, I suddenly could not find my son. I looked everywhere, no sign of him, I asked his friend where he was, she didn’t know. We asked the waiters, everyone joined us in the search. My friend started to panic but I was calm. Calm because I know the restaurant well and was sure that they wouldn’t have let a little boy leave by himself so I knew he was still inside the restaurant with us. I checked the bathroom, asked a gentleman to help look in the men bathroom. Finally, I went back to the indoor play area to check again, there he was on the horse with this look on his face. Till date, I still have no exact words to express what emotion/s I felt when I found him- relief, joy, anger, understanding, all sorts. Understanding, because I remembered that he initially wanted to play there and I had said no so he had to find a way to get there. Where he was when I first checked and didn’t find him, I guess I will never know but I felt super grateful that we found him. My heart started moving slowly back into its right position.

He had never done anything like that before, ever, which means that he really wanted to play in that indoor area. My thinking was, why pay when there are so many free rides, and I’m guessing his thinking was, why can’t I get on this horse ride, just once and see how it feels : ) He caused me panic but I learned a lot from that experience. The major thing I learned was that I should say yes sometimes, if I can put it that way. Children honestly just want to experience a particular thing and not just “waste” money as we are quick to think.

I must praise myself though! I’ve always been known to be calm and peaceful even in crazy situations but in this experience, I actually outdid myself. I just knew he was going to be found right there and within the restaurant. I also knew that panicking wouldn’t have made much difference during the search. Looking back now, I have surely been more watchful over him and he has also grown to a level where he can effectively communicate and be clear with his requests and making sure I understand why he is making such a request 😇

Yes, that was my heart in my mouth experience. Have you experienced any? At work, family event, vacation? Feel free to share in the comment section😄🤭 please like, share and subscribe to encourage me. Thank you for reading this. I hope you stop by next time.

Keep well, stay positive, all will be well, if you believe. Bye for now!!

Does Kindness Really Come Back?

dayne-topkin-u4bZQUeo2Q8-unsplashHi guys, thanks for stopping by to read this. I will make it a quick one : )

Does kindness really come back to you? Does kindness get repaid? Does something happen to you and you are able to link it with something you did for someone else? Do you ever feel like your acts of kindness never gets “rewarded”? 

Well for me, there is no straight answer to these questions because for many years, I’ve felt unrewarded for some things I did for people. Not that I expected a reward from the people I was being kind to or helpful towards but I expected that when it is my turn in the future, I would also get help. For example, I’ve always always loved children and helped as many people as I could with their children for as long as I can remember. I babysat children for fre so their parents could go out or go write exams or attend job interviews or simply just rest. At some point back then if a school bus drove past on my street and I was outside, one could hear children calling out my name : ) Those children really enjoyed being with me. Fast forward to now, I thought that I would enjoy the same but no, nothing of that sort. It is either I cancel that event I had planned or hubby stays with the children,  almost every time!! That being said, I am glad I helped out those parents years ago, at least now I know how much it meant to them because at that time, it meant nothing to me, I simply enjoyed taking care of children.

However, there is one act of kindness that I did and got rewarded for even though I had no clue that I would. Hubby and I live in a really small 2 bed apartment and because of how things are financially, we let the room out from time to time for Aibnb. One day, we got a request from a friend of a friend asking us to please host their cousin for a week, for free. There was no connection, a friend of a friend’s cousin? Anyway, we accepted to help and guess what? The lady we agreed to help called me, mid way during their journey at a stop over to say that she was coming with her cousin. Hmm, I felt it was too late to complain and hosted them. The lady slept in the guest room and the cousin slept on the couch. We cooked for them throughout their stay and made them feel comfortable. We took them on a mini tour of the city and they generally had a nice time.

A few weeks later, the cousin’s cousin called to ask if I was still job hunting as I had been desperately searching for a job to support my family and so I said yes. Long story short, he helped out, advised and recommended me for a job. I did three interviews and I got the job! Was my act of kindness in hosting a stranger rewarded? Yes. Did I expect it? No, not in the least bit.

Moral of my story, do what you can, help where you can, be kind when you can, reach out, smile to someone. Acts of kindness are usually rewarded but mostly in ways we do not expect. When something good happens to you, it actually might be as a result of something unrelated that you did for someone else, ages ago or weeks ago, depends on how quickly it happens. That is how I choose to see it. 

What do you think? Does kindness really come back to you? I would like to read from you and possibly learn a thing or two. Thank you for reading, see you next. 

Keep well and stay safe!

Failure to Launch!

kurt-cotoaga-0b5g9_pnMqc-unsplashFailure to Launch Movie (2006)

There is a 2016 Romance/Comedy movie produced by Scott Rudin and directed by Tom Dey where the guy failed to launch because he was comfortable! The main acts were my two favorite at the time Matthew McConaughey and Sarah Jessica Parker. Tripp (played by Matthew) was a 35 year old man who didn’t want to leave his parents home to stand on his feet. He obviously scared women off, I mean who wants to be with a man who still lives with his parents and is proud of it? They all dumped him. His parents then planned to “employ” Paula to help get him out! Paula (played by Sarah) believed that men continue to live at home because they have low esteem and her plan was to help him boost his confidence. Long story short, I have the same experience but in a different way.

 

I opened up my first blog in 2014, and then 2016, and then in 2018 and then now but I never really launched out. Why? If anyone asks me, I can’t really say why. I enjoy all forms of writing, academic, fiction and more especially writing about my experiences. I feel relaxed and write so much. For university assignments and research proposals, my issues were always writing way too much and struggling to stick to the word limit.

Why didn’t I launch out? It could be because I was like Tripp, hiding in my comfort zone. Not like I was comfortable with being so knowledgeable, understanding, wise and how helpful I can be in terms of research and keeping all that to myself. However something just held me back. I was comfortable with those who knew me chatting with me to say, hey Seun, how do I write a research proposal and I sent links or someone says please I need to open an Instagram business page and I help them design a logo and open up the account for them. Or someone says they are struggling with how to define their eyebrows and I send a short video clip to show them how to. Or someone says their meatpies don’t close up when they bake them and I show them what to do. I know God has blessed me and I am so grateful for that. So why didn’t I launch out? No idea. Probably Paula was right to attach it to low self esteem or I can add lack of confidence and guess what, like Tripp, most of my friends dumped me! Ouch.

 

Anyways, I am glad that I have finally launched out, hence the name “shefinallywrites”. This is also to say that my failure to launch early enough means that I have to share some of the stories and experiences that I would have shared back then. My initial plan was to post every Friday night but I think I will make it weekend posts. I will write as I get the opportunity to and post immediately so pardon me if there are no catchy phrases or links or anything expert bloggers do right now, I promise I will get there. If necessary. Get ready to read and read and read from me and please encourage me by interacting with the posts, thank you!

 

I think I need to stop for now and be back in my next post. Do have a lovely weekend and remember that you matter, never forget that. You mean the world to someone, at least someone. Someone out there is inspired by you, either secretly or you know. Keep well, stay safe and stay strong!! See ya 🙂

Welcome once again :)

This is my welcome message and I am so glad that you are reading this because it means that this lady finally launched out. Honestly, I am not quite sure what has held her back for so long but as with life, when it’s time, then it’s time. Wait, why am I writing in third person singular? Well, she is me and I am very happy to be the one that you will be reading from every Friday night and I hope we get to relate with one another and learn from one another.

Mostly, I just like to pour out my thoughts and I find that I feel relieved when I am able to write. It makes me feel like I have spoken to someone and they heard me. Which means that now, I will be sharing my life experiences, knowledge, wisdom, lifestyle and thoughts with you, yes you and I hope you get to do the same. I also will write about life as a woman who is a wife, mother, has a career and has businesses she is trying to establish. What are my coping techniques? How do I find time for me? Am I a strict parent? Is my hair afro? All these things I will write about and more.

I think I need to stop for now 🙂 and if you read it to this point, I am saying welcome once again, thank you for clicking and reading. Does that rhyme? Yes, a little bit.

Stayed tuned to read more from me. I am glad that she finally writes. I look forward to reading from you from time to time in the comment section. Keep well.

About Me

I am me and no one else : ) Currently, I am employed as an International Student Advisor and I assist students who want to study abroad from applications to visa preparation up until the enrol in a university of their choice in a country of their choice.

I am also self employed and I write, edit, proofread and tutor. I assist students who need guidance with their personal statements to make it on point. I also sell beautiful scarves called pashmina and unique fabrics called Ankara. I also cook a lot for my family and for those who like to buy home made dishes and store in their freezers 🙂

In my posts, I will write on a variety of topics ranging from education, study abroad, language use, marriage, parenting, lifestyle and other topics that come to mind. My writing will be personal and feel like I am speaking with someone I know.

I am married with two wonderful children. I love my family and enjoy spending a great deal of time with them. I hope to share my life experiences as much as I can and also learn from my you through your comments.

Thank you and welcome to my page. I appreciate you stopping by 🙂

You are Welcome!!

If you are reading this, then it means you are on my blogspot and reading my very first post (well not first post for some, I realized I didn’t publish it)! So I say to you, welcome and thank you for stopping by.
She Finally Writes will mainly be an interactive blog where I will post my original articles that will hopefully lead to useful discussions as well as question and answer sessions.
The proper use of English is quite important to me therefore, I will post some articles that have to do with English language grammar. I will give some lessons and tips from time to time and I will also answer questions I get along the line.
I am also a loving wife and a caring mother. This means that this blog will also have posts with regards to helpful marriage and parenting tips that have worked for me. I believe these tips will also work for at least one other person than myself.
Finally, there will be posts about general experiences about living away from home. Home being either your country of nationality or a country where you lived for several years before relocating to where you are now. These will come from my experience of being away from home for seven years and those of friends from different countries that I’ve met whilst here, who are also away from home.
I am so excited and can’t wait to begin! I sincerely hope that this blog will make me happy that I finally decided to start writing and sharing my thoughts and life experiences. Once again, welcome to my blog. Thank you.
Enjoy!!!

Beautiful quote

✍Quote for the day✍

Coffee never knew it will taste nice and sweet, before it met sugar and milk. We are good as individuals but become better when we blend with the right people. The world is full of nice people, if you can’t find one, be one. 
The richest wealth is wisdom. The strongest weapon is patience. The best security is faith. The greatest tonic is laughter, and the greatest force is love. The surest assurance is hope in God. And the source of our strength is the joy of the Lord. Surprisingly all are free. So enjoy them!

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Baby/Toddler laughter

What makes your baby/toddler laugh? For my 15 month old, other than the standard ‘tickling’, funny songs and funny dances do the trick. Yes, sing an original song or a composed one in a funny way and my son laughs so hard that you wonder if there is something else making him laugh. Same goes for funny dance. Dance funny and you’ve got him giggling. 


What does your baby or toddler do that make you laugh? Well for me, it’s his dance! He dances the same way to any music at all. Sometimes dancing to people’s discussion, lol! He just loves to dance. He also loves singing! I find his singing thrilling and funny. Especially when he thinks there’s no one watching or listening to him. It is hilarious and tickles me!

What a co-incidence that the same things get us laughing? Singing and dancing. We just love each other and love the same things!

So back to my question, what makes your child laugh?

Diaper Story

Diaper Story
When I found out that I was pregnant, I was excited! So much that I started dreaming about my baby boy. I knew he would be a boy even before the scan confirmed it at the five months check up. One thing I didn’t look forward to however, is the thought of changing diapers with poop in it! I just couldn’t imagine me doing that everyday. I spoke to my sister about it because at the time, she had three boys of her own. Her response to me was ‘you’ll be happy to see the poop’ and thought to myself, duh! Anyways, 15 months down the journey since my baby was born, I am happy to see poop! It confirms that he is healthy. It is not that bad after all. When I smell his stinky poop, I get his diaper, wipes and cream and do the job without thinking ewww. Of course sometimes, it smells so bad but I still tickle him during the change.
So, to the moral of the story, things always seem so bad, terrible and even sometimes scary before you try it. But, when you do, you realize that it isn’t as bad as you presumed it would be.

Bobo’s first day at school

My baby’s first day at school is supposed to be his first day at school but turned out to be pretty much mine as I couldn’t even get much sleep the night before. Hubby and I had checked out different schools and finally selected this particular one. So the morning of his first day at school came and I got him ready and reminded him that he was going to school (he had been saying ‘go to school’ for a while). I was so so excited.
Anyway, we got to the school and into his classroom- mustard seed class- that we had been shown when we checked out the school and we got in. My honest expectation for the first day at school was tears, tears and more tears because he had been with just me and his dad for 2 and half years but he surprised me. He just kept pointing and identifying items on the pictures around. ‘Zebra’, ‘elephant’, ‘green’, ‘car’, ‘number 8’ and so forth. Even the teachers and the assistants were impressed. He went on and on moving around from one toy to the other and we took some pictures and videos while doing so. We left the classroom with a happy child in there, our child.
And when I went to pick him from school later in the day, I became a star, a superstar. As I walked towards the playground where all the children were, I heard my son’s teacher say to the other moms around ‘here comes the mother’ and they turned around with smiles on their faces. I kept wondering what was up as I walked towards them. When I got there, they all kept praising me and asking how I did it. They were all amazed all-time how much my son knew: colors, numbers, alphabets, animals, fruits and to top it off, he could spell his name! I was beaming with pride that all my hardwork paid off! Not hardwork as such because we learned through play most of the time but I put in a good amount of effort and persistence in teaching him.
My question is, how was the first day at school for your child/children. At what age did they start? How did you feel about it? How did the teachers make it easier?
Truth be told, my son is in a new class with a new teacher and has been crying every morning. His crying seems to reduce each day and hopefully soon, he will adapt and adjust to his new teacher, new classroom and accept that change is inevitable  in life.
I look forward to your comments 🙂