Study Abroad- New Visa Alert

Hello, how are you doing? The week went by pretty fast. I am so excited that today is Friday! End of work week. But is that really the cause for my excitement? Partly. The main reason I am so excited is due to the fact that one of my students got his study visa last Wednesday!! No, it’s not my first visa, I have actually done quite a few few, however, it is my very first family visa. The student, in his mid forties, is going for a Master’s program with his wife and three children. We put in the application on the 7th of December 2020 and received the outcome on 6th of January.

Brief history, the student had applied on his own to a different country and had received visa refusal twice, and that alone was a cause for a little panic, because most of these embassies work together, however, I am a visa queen and mostly only receive visa and not rejection or a refusal. He said to me that probably study abroad was not for him and I said to him him, this time, it is for you. He also has a close knit family and didn’t want to leave them behind as it was a two years Masters program. We started the process. We searched for courses that he had experience in but that would also allow him learn something new. We found it and we applied, he received a conditional offer within the week and we submitted the documents that were requested. He then received the unconditional offer and he made payments. For some reason, it took a while, almost 10 days because before the university received his payment of about 75% of the tuition fee. He had the money that is why he paid that much. Some pay 100% of the tuition as well. What is required is a small fraction of the tuition, usually about 25-35%, to show commitment to the university.

The next part was to make sure that his financials were in order because he had to show funds to prove that he had enough to cover and cater for his wife and children so we calculated the amount and then left the account to “mature” for the stipulated number of days. During the wait, they did the health check required and we worked at getting other documents in place. Long story short, we put in their application on the 1st and 2nd of December and they did their Biometrics on the 7th of December, and the second waiting period started. The wife, a friend of mine, just wanted to start packing, which would be a lot of packing as they had young children so would need to do almost all the pacing. And for me, despite the fact that I was sure I dotted all the “i”s and crossed all the “t”s, I would prefer they received the outcome first before doing that to avoid a “just in case it doesn’t work out” situation. She trusted me. On the day we calculated and thought that they would receive the outcome, the main applicant was emailed and asked to bring in documents for their second child and that the ones they had were not clear.

That was where my doubts started creeping in. We looked through all the documents a thousand times, there were no unclear documents, why would they say the second child’s documents were not clear? Is this a sign of another rejection? Also, some other students who applied after them had received theirs so what could be wrong? He called me a lot to ask, as if I was the visa officer at the embassy : ) but never did I allow my doubts show in our conversations. I allayed his fears and let him know that they would receive it.

First thing on Wednesday morning, he sent me a screenshot of the email he received asking him to come receive the outcome and was setting out. Almost two hours after he sent a message that got me screaming for joy with singing and dancing ( that is how I rejoice). As my husband heard my joyful noise, he knew the visas had come through! It was worth the wait!

Another visa success, this time a family visa and guess what, they are recommending me to everyone they know! Yet again, I have proved to be a visa queen. Sometimes getting visas are tough on the side but I believe that if one is meticulous, which I know I am, especially with work, then visa outcomes would be positive. My colleagues are also excited when I shared the news because we were in it together, they kept saying “Seun, you’ve got this/ you are good at this/ trust yourself more!

Yes, I need to trust myself more. I need to know that I am good at what I do, I need to tell myself to show more confidence in myself. I type this because I know that I need to praise and trust myself more and give myself more credit for what I do. Women (and men), wear many hats and need to function properly- at work work I am an International Student Advisor who deals with about 10-20 students/leads per day through emails, whatsapp and phone calls and even though not all of them convert however, I need to be nice and professional at all times. My job is interesting, used to be more interesting BC (before Covid), or maybe same.

Thank you for stopping by. Feel free to like, if you liked it, or like just to support me while I keep at this. Leave a comment, f you have any questions, I’ll be happy to answer or research it for you. I enjoy research so why not. Bye for now, keep well, keep safe. Until next time.

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Failure to Launch!

kurt-cotoaga-0b5g9_pnMqc-unsplashFailure to Launch Movie (2006)

There is a 2016 Romance/Comedy movie produced by Scott Rudin and directed by Tom Dey where the guy failed to launch because he was comfortable! The main acts were my two favorite at the time Matthew McConaughey and Sarah Jessica Parker. Tripp (played by Matthew) was a 35 year old man who didn’t want to leave his parents home to stand on his feet. He obviously scared women off, I mean who wants to be with a man who still lives with his parents and is proud of it? They all dumped him. His parents then planned to “employ” Paula to help get him out! Paula (played by Sarah) believed that men continue to live at home because they have low esteem and her plan was to help him boost his confidence. Long story short, I have the same experience but in a different way.

 

I opened up my first blog in 2014, and then 2016, and then in 2018 and then now but I never really launched out. Why? If anyone asks me, I can’t really say why. I enjoy all forms of writing, academic, fiction and more especially writing about my experiences. I feel relaxed and write so much. For university assignments and research proposals, my issues were always writing way too much and struggling to stick to the word limit.

Why didn’t I launch out? It could be because I was like Tripp, hiding in my comfort zone. Not like I was comfortable with being so knowledgeable, understanding, wise and how helpful I can be in terms of research and keeping all that to myself. However something just held me back. I was comfortable with those who knew me chatting with me to say, hey Seun, how do I write a research proposal and I sent links or someone says please I need to open an Instagram business page and I help them design a logo and open up the account for them. Or someone says they are struggling with how to define their eyebrows and I send a short video clip to show them how to. Or someone says their meatpies don’t close up when they bake them and I show them what to do. I know God has blessed me and I am so grateful for that. So why didn’t I launch out? No idea. Probably Paula was right to attach it to low self esteem or I can add lack of confidence and guess what, like Tripp, most of my friends dumped me! Ouch.

 

Anyways, I am glad that I have finally launched out, hence the name “shefinallywrites”. This is also to say that my failure to launch early enough means that I have to share some of the stories and experiences that I would have shared back then. My initial plan was to post every Friday night but I think I will make it weekend posts. I will write as I get the opportunity to and post immediately so pardon me if there are no catchy phrases or links or anything expert bloggers do right now, I promise I will get there. If necessary. Get ready to read and read and read from me and please encourage me by interacting with the posts, thank you!

 

I think I need to stop for now and be back in my next post. Do have a lovely weekend and remember that you matter, never forget that. You mean the world to someone, at least someone. Someone out there is inspired by you, either secretly or you know. Keep well, stay safe and stay strong!! See ya 🙂